Without question we purposely avoid places that could expose Noah to
germs of any kind between October and April of each year. However at
some point, you have to allow your children access to the world after
what you think is a safe time (typically late spring and summer months)
where the risk is significantly lower. We decided to venture out to
both the Butterfly Pavilion and the Aquarium over the weekend. Usually
we go once a year - mostly due to the sheer price tag that is
associated with admission. And we lack the financial resources to hold
anything other than a zoo membership. Maybe we just picked a bad
weekend. Flooded with people, really most of which who had little
regard for a wheelchair, pushing their way ahead of us.
I was
amazed at how many sick children there were. Coughing, noses running,
eyes watering. Some looking beyond miserable. Yet, there they were out
in public. That was not social etiquette when
I was growing up. If you were sick you parked your sick butt between
the couch and your bed, while having your mother make chicken noodle
soup and sip beverages of all kinds to keep you well hydrated. The last
thing you'd find is our parents dragging us out and about.
However,
now days the theory is, little Johnny has a cold. We don't want him to
have cabin fever, or since we have to be off work anyway because he's
sick let's go have a fun day and expose the world to his germ. After
all, who cares really if I'm infecting a medically fragile child or a
frail elderly lady. Their problem, not mine as long as my child is
having a good time while snot flows endlessly from his nose.
NEWS FLASH!
Little
Johnny should be home, recuperating while he's sneezing, coughing,
complaining of a raw throat with throbbing ears. Not at the Butterfly
Pavilion and not at the local aquarium spreading his illness to hundreds
of people. And if he should be going anywhere it should be to the
doctors because you failed to recognize that his head cold has now moved
congestion into his ears and has settled in his lungs after society has
convinced you that antibiotics are overly prescribed and that
everything including pneumonia is JUST A VIRUS!
So as you
guessed it, I sit here with two sick children who came down with a cold
at the exact time. This wasn't even a case of little brother giving it
to big brother (which often happens simply because Luke can touch his
face, eyes, and mouth freely where Noah cannot). This time it was
literally like a timer going off at the same time!
And if I
sound mad, it's because I am. This sleep seeking mom is so over people
not being considerate of others. I am over that no one can even think
about how their actions will effect someone else. No one ever considers
a medically fragile child in their decision-making because well, they
don't have one. But I can guarantee you if the shoe was on the other
foot and this was your journey you'd be fuming mad that you can't even
take your children out to a child's place for fun without coming home
with a germ. All because those who have sick kids don't have the common
sense to keep them home.
So surviving on less than an hour and
a half of sleep while I cling to a pulse oximeter, (and no that's not
the name of a new planet found by NASA). It happens to monitor your
oxygen saturation levels or to simplify that - how well you are
breathing. I also get some other fun things to do like rescue Noah
from every snort as he struggles to adjust to the growing mucus down his
throat, because he can't sit or even move properly to clear himself
like other people can. Imagine your typical child sick times ten! And
don't forget I do indeed have a typical child to care for as well, who
is seeking out comfort when I have to run to rescue the other one who is
gagging because of his nasal drainage.
While I sit her
contemplating face planting myself in a bucket of coffee, I will hope
that this post reaches at least one parent that will never take their
sick child out in public again to expose them to others that can't
recover as easily as their child can.
Love,
Noah's Miracle by Stacy Warden is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-Noncommercial-No Derivative Works 3.0 United States License.