Ever wonder how you change a disabled child's incontinence underwear and
diapers of Noah's age and size? Wonder how we change his clothes or
pants if he gets sick and vomits on himself, or dribbles food on his
pants and shirt and needs to be changed while we are out? Or how we change his clothes when he's been at the pool and is wet? We can't fit
him on a baby changing table anymore. He's too big. For parents like
me we, sometimes can use a wheelchair if it reclines but that is also
very difficult to do. Special needs families are often left to the only
choice possible the stall of a bathroom floor.
Can you imagine
how that feels to have to lay your child down on a dirty, yucky, often
soiled and soaked urine covered floor? Knowing this is the only choice
you have to change your child. It's a terrible feeling. Sometimes we
can find places like an office if someone takes pity on us, sometimes a
first aid station... but in many cases we can't and we're on our own.
At restaurants, at grocery stores, at sporting events, the theater, the
zoo... we could be anywhere having to do the best we can, which leaves
many of us at the mercy of a public bathroom stall floor.
A
little over a year ago I wrote about a little girl and her mother that I
tried to help at the zoo when she was changing her disabled child on
the bathroom stall floor and the toilet next to them backed up and
overflowed and flowed under to their stall, covering her daughter's hair
in sewer water. To this day I still think about that moment every time
I go to the zoo and pass that particular bathroom. My heart is still
heavy from the memory of that happening. And I think about that mom and
little girl often and wonder how they are doing. Change only happens
if we work hard at it. If we are loud enough to get the world to hear
us. If we ban together for a cause, and talk about it.
Yesterday
I was challenged to participate in The Barefoot Challenge - a challenge
where you go barefoot in a bathroom. Would you want to take your shoes
off and walk around in a public bathroom? Pretty gross thought right?
Now would you want to lay your own child down on a floor that you don't
want to even take your shoes off on? I'm guessing the answer would be
no. Moms all over the world are accepting the challenge to take
pictures of their bare feet in bathroom stalls to help bring awareness
to the need for a Space to Change.
The UK is far ahead of the
US with this movement. And we need to start lighting a fire here right
here in our own backyard. We need to be demanding Spaces to Change at
local airports, at grocery stores, business, restaurants, large event
centers... we need to be able to change our children with dignity and
respect. Not on the floor of a bathroom stall. They are not lesser,
they deserve better. I hope you all join me in participating in The
Barefoot Challenge. You don't even have to have a child with special
needs to show your support. Get out there take off those shoes and take
a picture and post it with the hashtag #barefootchallenge
And
feel free to challenge all your closest friends and ask them to take a
picture in support of this movement. Together we can make a
difference. I want to show you all how we can inspire change if we work together
for a common cause. Join me in helping make these changes for children
with special needs like Noah.
To download your campaign kit and learn more about the Space to Change Campaign click here.
Love,
Noah's Miracle by Stacy Warden is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-Noncommercial-No Derivative Works 3.0 United States License.